Addictions are often misunderstood as there is an unhelpful focus upon behaviour e.g. compulsively watching online porn and less on the nature of the addiction itself and what purpose it is serving.

As there is invariably some level of enjoyment or comfort associated with an addiction or other well-rehearsed pattern of behaviour, there can be a high level of ambivalence associated with the prospect of changing these behaviours. I can help you understand the nature of this ambivalence and clarify your motivation to change.

• Chemsex taking over your life
• Watching too much porn online
• Apps taking up too much time
• Drugs or alcohol becoming a problem
• Do you feel sexually compulsive or out of control
• Concerned about the types of drugs you use
• Are drugs or alcohol ruining your sex life

You may have suffered in silence for years, or have always found it difficult to talk about something that happened to you a long time ago. Talking to someone in a safe, non-judgemental space can start the healing process.

I offer a supportive environment, allowing you to talk at your own pace, about any aspect of sexual or emotional abuse you may have suffered.

• Hiding a secret, need to be believed
• Finding sexual relationships difficult
• Suffering from shame and/or guilt
• Feel isolated and alone
• Trying to understand your true sexuality

Together we can help you to better understand what makes you anxious and why. We can help you come to terms with being an anxious person or somebody who is prone to anxiety.

I can help you better understand your thought patterns, recognise your particular triggers for anxiety and build coping mechanisms that work for you.

• Feel worried
• Feel stressed
• Difficulty in sleeping
• Difficulty concentrating
• Feeling restless or on edge

I can help you to understand yourself better. Look at what you value about yourself, how you relate to others and in what circumstances you don’t feel good about yourself or your abilities.

To understand yourself we may look at past experiences and try to identify patterns in your thinking and behaviour. This exploration will also help you better understand some of the choices you have made. Knowing yourself better and creating clarity, can help you make different choices in the future.

• Lack confidence
• Feel others are better than you
• Not able to stand up for yourself
• Easily influenced by other people
• Feel invisible around other people

I offer one-to-one counselling and can help you look at issues in your current relationship that may help you decide how you feel and what, if anything, you may want to do. Relationships in which you may be experiencing issues can include; sexual and intimate issues with a partner, family relations, friends or work colleagues.

If you are not currently in a relationship, counselling can also help you understand why you don’t feel able to meet the right person, why you keep making the same mistakes when it comes to partners and how you relate to other people.

• Unsure about your relationship
• Problems communicating with each other
• Lack of intimacy or sexual fulfilment
• Feelings of jealousy, frustration or anger
• Want an open relationship
• Want to explore polyamory
• Feeling stuck or trapped in your relationship
• Feeling that you and your partner are drifting apart